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Call Me Mr. Lez

doms are womyn with swagger. womyn. right? they don’t want 2 b a man. some. right? some do. right? i don’t really know. i’m askin you. what’s the deal with the masculine pronouns, nicknames and whatnot.

ok, sometimes butches get mistaken for dudes. they brush it off, ignore it and let it go. fine. i get it. sometimes it’s annoying to explain. or u dont’ feel like it dealing with the ignorant. buuuut, when u’r with your gyrl and she calls u ‘daddy’; whassup with that? ok ok, all in good fun. but i’ve heard some gyrls who were dead ass serious with it.

screennames that have “Mr. This” or “Mr. That”. or simply shortening your birthname 2 b more masculine. isn’t this exactly what our detractors are talking about? isn’t this the behaviour of the confused? y’all know i love me some studs. why use masculine labels? seems contradictory as a lesbian. will feminine labels take away the swagger?

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knowledge Said:

This is a great topic. Very touchy subject for a lot of studs I’d imagine. For most of our lives there is a sense of simply trying to find oneself, and often you hear a labels being applied to you, even masculine identified labels are applied and some studs reject, some accept, varying reasons. Feminine labels don’t affect the swagger, but they’re interesting in their own sense because they could be deemed as detracting from our masculinity somehow. I’ve dated girls that have called me Papi, Daddi, etc, and I didn’t protest because those labels were borne of respect for how I identify as a more masculine lesbian, even if I do not under any circumstances want to be a man. Same with Boi or Bro or Bruh. Among most of the studs I know, these are terms of endearment, not terms that signify a disconent of or with our/their womanhood.


hey knowledge,
i can always count on you 2 add some incredibly insightful commentary. i feel much more enlightened.


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